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This is the last of the 4 outlines I did for my Raising Godly Teens Class. It was a lot of fun getting to “teach” my parents each week. I hope that these outlines on here may be an encouragement to parents and a help to other youth ministers. If you’d like more info on any of these outlines or have comments or questions, feel free to contact me through our church’s website.

Raising Godly Teens
Session 4—Healthy Sociality

The Picture of Healthy Sociality
1. Responsible
-Jeremiah 31:30
2. Aware
-1 Peter 5:8
3. Informed
-John 8:31-32
4. Engaged
-Colossians 3:23
5. Empowered
-1 Timothy 4:12
6. Sympathetic
-2 Corinthians 1:3
7. Submissive
-Romans 13:1-2
-Philippians 2:2-4

1. Inexperience
2. Poor Environment
3. Poor Relationships
4. Traumatic Events

Developing Healthy Sociality
1. Let them try and let them fail
2. Give them healthy exposure
3. See things through their worldview
4. Help them understand “why?”
5. Set boundaries
6. Be involved
7. Look for teachable moments

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This is the outline for Session 3 of my Raising Godly Teens class. This was “the talk”. We have our last class tonight where we’ll cover healthy sociality and then I’ll post that outline tomorrow. I hope these are a help in some way. I’m in no way an expert or an authority, just giving some perspective from a guy that shares life with teens.

Raising Godly Teens
Session 3—Healthy Sexuality

The Iceberg

The Good News
1. God made sex
2. God wants your teenager to have sex–(according to His timing and in His context)
3. Many teens are waiting
4. You can have a positive effect

The Rest of The Story
1. Many teens are confused
2. Many teens are not waiting
3. Many teens are misinformed
4. Many parents are naïve
5. Sex is becoming the “norm”

Teen Sexuality Big Issues
1. Dating
2. Porn
3. Media
4. Homosexuality
5. Premarital sex

What do you do
1. Be Aware
2. Be Informed

3. Be Involved
4. Be Available
5. Be Open
6. Share God’s plan

  • 1 Thessalonians 4:3
  • Genesis 2:18-25

7. Look for teachable moments
8. Set the example
9. Set boundaries

10. Talk about their role

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This is the outline for week two of the 4-week class I’m teaching on Raising Godly Teens. During this week we covered Developing Healthy Spirituality. I went a little overboard with the info and didn’t have enough application (imho).

Raising Godly Teens
Session 2—Healthy Spirituality

Picture of Healthy Spirituality

Heart that beats for God
Hands that serve others
Mind growing in Jesus
Mouth that speaks the message of hope
Feet that walk alongside my brothers and sisters

Starting Points About True Spirituality (This Way To Youth Ministry—by Duffy Robinson)

1. True spirituality requires our intention, but it is not solely a matter of human effort.
2. True spirituality requires attention to process, but it cannot be reduced to a method.
3. True spirituality requires a giant step of faith, but it is always marked by short steps of obedience.
4. True spirituality requires a change of mind; but it is always coupled with a change of heart and a change of lifestyle.
5. True spirituality requires a first-person commitment, but it almost always involves a second person.
6. True spirituality requires a great work of God, but it doesn’t always look particularly grand.

Faith Development Stages

Stage 1: Intuitive—Projective (4 to 8 yrs)
Stage 2: Mythic—Literal (6-7 to 11-12 yrs)
Stage 3: Synthetic—Conventional (12 yrs to adulthood)
Stage 4: Individuative—Reflective (young adult and beyond)
Stage 5: Conjunctive (early midlife and beyond)
Stage 6: Universalizing (midlife and beyond)

Nurture (0-6 yrs)
Indoctrination (7-18 yrs)
Reality Testing (19-27 yrs)
Making Choices (28-35 yrs)
Active Devotion (36-up yrs)

Different Influences On Spiritual Development

Positive Negatives
Helping Others Helps Students
Crossing Cultural Boundaries to Higher Stages of Faith
Negative Positives
Arrogant Certainty

Roles In Spiritual Development

1. Modeling
2. Communicating
3. Challenging
4. Enforcing

1. Tool for families
2. Community
3. Opportunity for service

Checkpoints of Spiritual Development (Seven Checkpoints by Stuart Hall & Andy Stanley)

1. Authentic Faith (Prov. 3:5-6)
2. Spiritual Disciplines (Rom. 12:2)
3. Moral Boundaries (1 Thess. 4:3-8)
4. Healthy Friendships (Prov. 13:20)
5. Wise Choices (Eph. 5:15-17)
6. Ultimate Authority (Rom. 13:1-2)
7. Others First (Phil. 2:3-11)

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This month I’ve been teaching a class for parents on raising Godly teens. It’s been a real pleasure meeting with this group of parents and sharing the little bit of insight that I have. I don’t come at this class as any kind of expert psychologist or sociologist, but as a youth minister who has been involved with and studies the world of a teenager.

I thought I’d share my outlines/notes from the classes. These are merely my outlines and do not have a lot of the content that I teach. Hope they help. Leave a comment if you have questions or want more info about part of them.

Here’s session 1 which is setting up a framework of what a teenagers world is like today…

Raising Godly Teens
Session 1—Framework

Picture of a perfect family
Do you see your family as a portrait or a candid photo?
Which is more accurate?

Who influences teens the most? (determined by George Barna research)
9% Youth Ministers
38% Mom & Dad

Key Concepts:

An Iceberg
Don’t focus on just good behavior. Good behavior is just the top of the iceberg. Godly Wisdom is the rest of the iceberg until water; the part that isn’t seen and often not paid attention to.

Framework of Understanding Your Teen

1. The world is different
2. Transitions
a. socially
b. physically
c. spiritually
3. Autonomy
4. Expanding Relationships
5. Preparing For Adulthood
6. Developing Personal Values & Beliefs

3 Big Questions
1. Who Am I?
2. Who Are My Friends?
3. Where Am I Going?

What does this mean for you as a parent?
1. Be sensitive & affirming
2. Teaching through example
3. Offer Godly perspective
4. Understand the sexual temptation that exists
5. Spend time with them
6. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!
7. Be The Parent!

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